I spent so much of my life disappointed despite being surrounded by incredible people, places, and opportunities. I had been programmed by society, my parents, and their parents to see aspects of my life through a lens of lack.

This perspective troubled me on a daily basis (it still rears its head every now and again) until I realized that expectations are just a precursor for disappointment.

The one that always got me was with friends. I expected them to be as dedicated to the friendship as I believed myself to be, I expected them to be as effortful as I believed myself to be, I expected them to be as communicative as I believed myself to be, and, if they weren’t, I would feel unloved and disappointed.

And when my mind was distracted by these thoughts I wasn’t able to focus on the incredibleness of my parents, the amazingness of my friends, the abundance of my community, or the fullness of my life.

All because of expectations….

What expectations have you set?

Take a moment now (because if you don’t do it now, when will you) to determine where in your life you experience disappointment. What expectations have you created here? And what thoughts might you be missing out on if you’re distracted by those expectations?

“My expectations were reduced to zero when I was 21. Everything since then has been a bonus.” ― Stephen W. Hawking

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